Summer With Solomon

Aug 11, 2019 | Dr. Darin Wood

When The Honeymoon Is Over

Song of Solomon 5:2-6:13

WHEN THE HONEYMOON IS OVER
Song of Solomon 5:2-6:13

I. Human nature lives at your house, too. – 5:2-8
  • How to fight fair:
    • Control your own emotions 
    • Attack the issue, not each other.
    • Stick to the subject – don’t branch off and make “lump together” statements.
    • Be kind – remember, you committed your life to this person because you love them!
    • No hitting below the belt!  Such as:
      • No attacks involving the words “NEVER” or “ALWAYS.”
      • No attacks on in-laws.
      • No use of things from the past that have already been forgiven.
    • Hold hands when you’re discussing your disagreement.
    • No fighting in front of the children.  They deserve better.
    • If you’re wrong, apologize.  Forgive when asked. 
II. Instead of focusing on what is wrong with your mate, focus on what’s RIGHT! – 5:9-15
  • Like Solomon did before, she begins to list the things she loves best about him:
    • He’s radiant and ruddy! – His handsome features drew me to him first!
    • His head is gold – that doesn’t mean it’s hard, it means it’s precious!
    • His hair is wavy and black – I see him as forever young.
    • His eyes are like doves – fresh, lively and active.
    • His cheeks are refreshing, life-giving and a reminder of all that is good!
    • His lips are sweet to her taste!
    • His arms are rods of gold. . . cedars – His strength is unmatched! 
III. Look for diamonds in the darkness of your struggles 5:16-6:3
Diamonds in the darkness of conflict might include:
  • A recognition that attraction without friendship is superficial, shallow and temporary. 
  • Vision to see that healthy relationships demand all three parts - mind, soul, body – to be in unity. 
  • Reconciliation and forgiveness are necessary parts of maturing and flourishing.
IV. THE APOLOGY WE MOST NEED HAS FIVE COMPONENTS:
  • Sincerity
  • Humility
  • Asking forgiveness
  • Regret
  • Empathy

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